Here I sit at 7pm on Sunday night, watching Conan Without Borders (pretty funny BTW) and trying to motivate myself to write. A little insight on my current life- I am a single mom, with two children (ages 10 and 13), who works full time and is taking her last course before graduating with her BA. I also bought my first home about two months ago, right before the holidays began. In short, I am busy! I know I am not alone, as this is something that most Americans deal with these days. We have many conveniences, like microwaves, cars, smartphones to make our lives easier. Yet, somehow I feel like I have less and less time.
I bring up this topic of time because I want to be a productive person, who goes for their dreams (writing a book), but feel like its an uphill battle. For one, I am already busy with my normal to-do list, so adding new goals can feel a bit overwhelming. At the same time, I need time to actually rest- physically and mentally. I know we are all given different levels of energy, and requirements for sleep needed to perform optimally. I personally think I have less than average energy, but that could be my own clouded perspective. A lot of my energy is spent on my anxiety and running different scenarios through my head of what I have said or done, or what I will say or do etc. Add to that a stressful job, and I am usually spent by 5pm. Then its time to make dinner and clean up. I know part of it could be remedied by having my children contribute more to the household. It is something I am working on, but have found challenging. Wait- parenting is hard? Especially when there is another adult voicing their opinion on how things are supposed to be done, but that discussion is for another day and time.
I know what you’re thinking- sounds like a lot of excuses. Well, yes. But based on facts! We all have a choice with what we do with our time. And if I am honest with myself, I could find more time in my day to invest in my goals if I prioritized them. I have a habit of starting things and not finishing them. Part of why I am so proud of getting my BA and graduating this March is I finished. I may have started and stopped a few times in my life for a variety of reasons like motherhood, but I am doing the damn thing! At the same time, I don’t want to spend 20 years writing my book because I can’t stay focused and disciplined to see it through. I think part of why I don’t always see things through is because I don’t have the self confidence to keep pushing through when things get tough, and I get bored easily/have attention span issues. I want to be intentional in my life and not just float along, bouncing from here to there. But I also don’t want to punish myself for being a free thinker or wanderer, because that too has its benefits.
So what is the solution? I think I need to prioritize my life. I think the best way to do this is to list what matters most to me, how much time I can dedicate to those things, and then create a schedule as a guideline for how and where I spend my time. I am not proud to say that I probably spend a total of a few hours a week mindlessly scrolling through Instagram and Facebook, almost in a trance like state. Limiting my social media time to once daily or weekends will give me the time I need to work on my book outline, while still keeping up with my day to day to-do lists. Perhaps setting a timer for 5 minutes every time I launch a social media app will help me snap out of it, and get back to the task at hand.
I’d love to hear from everybody reading this post. Do you have issues with time management and/or finishing what started? What tips and tricks do you have for maximizing your time without experiencing burn out? I look forward to hearing from you all, and thank you for visiting my page.